Finding the Balance: Supporting Your Child’s Wellbeing This Summer

It has been a long ten months, and now that school is out and summer is officially here, most children are ready for a well-earned break. Caregivers, however, may have different viewpoints about how their children will spend the summer months, with some taking a more relaxed approach and others preferring a more structured plan. At opposite ends of this spectrum are two commonly discussed approaches: “kid rotting” and over-programming. 

“Kid rotting” is a term used to describe a very relaxed approach to summer. Sometimes referred to as a “wild summer,” it involves intentionally allowing children unstructured, self-directed play throughout the break. Supporters of this approach believe it can foster independence, build problem-solving skills, and encourage creativity and imagination. While the term may be new, the idea is not. Many adults fondly remember summers with few schedules, minimal planned activities, and the freedom to explore, with the simple expectation of being home before dark. At the same time, in today’s digital world, an entirely unstructured summer may also lead to increased screen time if not thoughtfully guided. Resources such as the Canadian Paediatric Society’s Caring for Kids offer practical, research-informed guidance on healthy routines, sleep, and screen use for children of all ages.  

On the other hand, some caregivers believe children benefit from maintaining structure during the summer months. This may include summer school, sometimes abroad, or a variety of enriching activities such as sports, music, drama, camps, or organized outings. While these opportunities can be valuable and engaging, a fully scheduled summer can sometimes leave little room for rest and unstructured play. 

Experts often suggest being mindful of over-scheduling, as too many structured activities can contribute to fatigue or stress for children. Similarly, too little structure may present its own challenges, such as difficulty transitioning back to school routines or maintaining certain skills developed during the year. If families have concerns about their child’s emotional wellbeing, supports such as Kids Help Phone provides confidential support and resources for both children and caregivers across Canada*.  

Ultimately, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Each family can consider what works best for their child, with the goal of finding a healthy balance between structured activities and free time. Inviting children to be part of the decision-making process can help them feel engaged while ensuring they have both opportunities to explore and time to relax. 

Establishing a gentle routine can provide helpful structure without feeling restrictive. Setting reasonable guidelines around screen use can also encourage children to engage in other activities such as reading, creative play, or spending time outdoors. Maintaining a consistent sleep schedule can further support an easier transition back to school in September.